What is gray divorce and why do older people harbor gray divorce regrets? Gray divorce is not a new phenomenon, but it is a growing trend that threatens to overtake the standard for marital dissolution. Statistically, most marriages end in dissolution. When we think of divorce, it is hard to imagine grandparents getting divorced and finding other partners. Grandkids probably would feel confused by having step-grandparents for both grandma and grandpa. Imagine being in your thirties or forties and your parents are in their sixties and seventies and they are divorced or going through that dramatic process. They are dating and having fun while you are in an intact marriage and raising a family. This adds an extra layer of complexity to family dynamics and can create rivalries and resentment. Not only do those in their fifties, sixties and seventies have gray divorce regrets, their children and grandkids have those regrets too. Call 407-335-8113 to speak with Orlando divorce Attorney and Clermont Divorce Attorney Jonathan Jacobs of the Jacobs Law Firm. We know what you are going through.
What is Gray Divorce?
Gray divorce often happens when parents have remained together for the benefit of their children. When the kids are done with high school and move out, go to college, get married, etc., those same parents no longer feel obligated to stay together. This may be hard to imagine for their kids who lack life experience, but many spouses remain married for the benefit of other people. Once they are no longer needed as a bedrock of parental stability, their job is done, and it is time to get back to enjoying their lives. Many marriages lack romance, friendship, and are full of turbulence and disagreements. This is where gray divorce plays a major role in family dynamics.
Gray divorce regrets are often felt by the person who initiated the divorce. Take for example a 70 year old spouse. They fell in love with someone half their age, had a romantic dalliance, and then realized that they are not healthy, young, and the companionship of a younger person bases solely on ephemeral excitement is no match for the tender, love, care and love of a 40-50 year marriage where there is a history. Sorry, but more often than not, once you cheat and forfeit a lifetime together for greener pastures, the train has left the station and there is no going back.
Whatever your reason for gray divorce, and there are countless reasons I could have specified, you may need the help, counsel, guidance and experience of a family lawyer Clermont such as Attorney Jacobs. If you need us, we are here for you. Call 407-335-8113.